Frequently, family and friends will inquire, “how is Sarah doing? Is she working? Going to school?”
When I respond, “She is doing well…she spent two years working and saving and now is taking time to practice some self care and considering in what direction she would like to move towards next” , I am often met with an energy of judgement…that this decision of hers is not deemed worthy or productive enough to satisfy societal standards. This generates a sense of resentment within me and a deep desire to defend my dear daughter.
What I’d really like to say, and what most people aren’t prepared to hear is, “Sarah is doing the work of cultivating self-awareness…mending and tending to the repair of old wounds…even ancestral wounds…processing thought patterns, behavior patterns that have caused suffering down through the lineages…with great devotion and commitment. Despite not be getting monetarily paid for this work, it is indeed of great value”
In her endless hours of meditation, journaling, body work and creating, she remains, in her room cocoon and then emerges, the butterfly, with rich insights to share with me and the new practices of healthier behaviors. I will always champion her efforts to heal what is hurting within her, recognizing that as she does a deep dive into her inner world she is becoming better prepared to serve others in this difficult but fulfilling labor.
I experience fierce frustration when I am reminded of the limiting definition of worthwhile work. I will always defend Sarah’s desire to take this time to explore her thoughts, feelings, beliefs and discover how they connect to ancestral conditioning.
I admire her so much for her ability to let go of the expectation to conform to traditional work, and honor her inner guidance, regardless of the opinions of others. She is brave, not bypassing what is needful, with busyness and needless activity of distraction.
She is courageously, consciously swimming into the pain…alchemizing it with her breath and attention into healthy attitudes and behaviors that will support her wellness. This is by far, is some of the most valuable work one can pursue.
Making connections and discerning what is true and what is false… creating beauty from those insights… Practicing patience in the processing of so much information… Identifying ancestral wounds that remain in her body and tending to them… Developing skills of the Healer is valuable work.
Her main job right now is of an Explorer on a journey of self discovery while attending the University of Life… and who knows the extent of the influence her healing work will have on the world?
I hope we, as a collective consciousness can begin to successfully promote the legitimacy of this type of work.